Chapter Four - Truth & Trust
The worst time I told the ugly truth was when one of my friends where considering to drop out of school. I told them that if they dropped out now they would be a failure. I told them that they would work for minimum wage for the rest of their lives and live on the edge of poverty. I eventually lost that friend because they were willing to give up on their education. By me telling this person the hard truth it showed them that they will fail if they give up so they stayed in school and are now going to college. When you tell the truth it makes it way easier on yourself because you don't have to worry about remembering false information and if they don't like your response at least it was your opinion. Me telling the truth did not lift any burdens all it did was show someone that they can't give up on themselves.
The one person that I could trust with anything is my friend Taryn, I tell her everything that is going on with me. When it comes to deciding who you can trust what you do is tell them a fake secret and then just wait. If people start asking you about that secret then you know that you can't trust that person. If that person has kept the trial secret than you know that you can trust them with other secrets. I am a very trustworthy person because I value information and if you break someone's trust then they will stop telling you information. Its in my best interest to listen and not spread what they told me. For example my uncle and aunt (the uncle is her brother in law) got into a fight years ago and never settled it, so since my mom is friends with him we have to hide information from my aunt about him. So I will lie to my family because it is cleaner than starting a huge argument and having to choose sides. Still to this day my family hides information because we honor our word.
Being trustworthy is important because if you're not trustworthy than people will keep information from you. And that information could be very helpful like if someone tells you that there are rumors of people getting hired at a bank. If you keep your mouth shut then there will be less people applying compared to if you told everyone. When people know that you can be trusted they see you as a good person with morals. From this chapter I have learnt that you don't have to tell the truth to be trustworthy Often times if you want to be trustworthy you have to lie but then by lying you are not being trustworthy to the person that you are lying to. I also discovered that I am more likely to lie to someone then tell the truth because it makes it easier for everyone involved. For instance if someone asked if you liked their boyfriend you will say yea he's great no matter what your opinion of him is.
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